Among the silly questions my mum asks me ("Is Steve a good lover?" honestly you would think she was Mrs Focker or something) the one I dread the most is 'how old are you?'. Now you think being my mother she would know how old I am, but no she isn't senile she just wants to talk about when she wants her first grandchild. " 25. When I was your age I was already married, had two children and was running a house". This worked very well for her until fifteen years later when she ran off with her old boss (Phil now my stepdad, lovely man! Although I didn't seem to think so at the time).Don't get me wrong I love my mum very much but you cann see why I'm in no rush to settle down and have babies.
Firstly I want to be one hundred percent sure before I get married. Hopefully I'll only have to do it once (on a tropical beach somewhere just the two of us cos my family can't stand each other). Also I want to live a little first, travel a bit, have a few adventures and be a bit wild!
Although the recession has messed up my plans slightly (I'm living with my mum and stuck in a crappy job) I refuse to have children til I find a job I'm passionate about.
Even Steve my boyfriend of six years says "I want more children (he has a daughter he doesn't see from a previous relationship because his ex is a psycho) by the time I'm thirty".
This still gives me a few years but if I'm not ready by the time he is thirty he'll have to like it or lump it.
Most importantly, any child I have I want them to have a better childhood than me (no arguments and awkward relationships with step parents). But I don't want them to be spoilt (sometimes my mum overcompensated with my brother and sister who went to live with her hence we don't always get on).
Besides if I have inherited my mums dodgy ovaries everyone including me will have to wait. Personally if nature doesn't work then I'll seriously consider adopting. I believe IVF to be very risky considering we still do not know the long term side effects of trying it over and over again. That and with the world being over populated you might as well give a child a better life by adopting it.
Yes I do want to be a mother one day but it'll be on my terms not anyone elses.